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Freedom Coaching160 | July Newsletter

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Reflections on Integrity, Pivots, and the Road Less Traveled Dear reader, The first six months of the year have flown by. As Europe plans for summer holidays and shifts into a lower gear, I am stepping back into my bartering roles on HelpX. My upcoming route is set: Málaga,  France, and the Andorra region are on the list.   A lot has changed at Freedom Coaching160. First of all, you might have noticed the official name pivot from  MDCoaching160  (the English counterpart to my Dutch registered name,  Artsenpraktijk P. ChinAFo ). This change happened naturally as I began to feel freer myself, angling my work toward freedom from burdens, dismantling illusions, and living in true integrity. A massive amount of work and living has passed since December 2025.  On the road, I have learned how to deeply manage my energy while traveling. I have also experienced a love connection so profound that it keeps me feeling completely confident and calm, even when we are phy...

June 2026 is here | On energy management

 June 2026  As I circle back to France, my place for integrating lessons learned this winter, i realize that its been a while since i wrote my newsletter. This past winter was about discovering the best place to settle which turned out to be Malaga, a place on the coast of Andalusia where i could rest, replenish and discovered a coworking place for my massages and workhops.  Alongside this, time in France brought deeper integration. As things slowed down, I started to see more clearly how much of what we carry is not only personal — but also linked to family patterns and older emotional layers that have never fully been processed. These patterns often show up as: tiredness that doesn’t fully recover over-responsibility emotional overload difficulty staying clear under pressure The work is becoming very simple at its core: how do we restore energy, so life can be lived from a clearer place again? Starting September 1st, 2026 From September 1st, a new workshop series begins...

The Hidden Cost of Small Lies |

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 What a Broken Poolside Chair Reveals About Your Self-Respect Picture this: You are relaxing by a pristine swimming pool at a beautiful BnB on a warm afternoon. You shift your weight, and suddenly— crack . The plastic or wicker gives way, and you have broken through the lounge chair. What is your immediate internal reflex? Do you slide the broken chair back into place, gather your towel, and walk away hoping no one saw you? Do you rationalize it?  "It was already weathered. They charge enough anyway." In the hospitality sector, we see this constantly.  Guests break items, burn through wooden surfaces, stay silent, and check out.  They hide the broken wine glass in the back of the cupboard, or leave behind a chaotic trail of destruction—party balloons scattered across the grass, tape peeling off the terrace railings, and sticky, mucky party streamers melted onto the shower floors. Most people think hiding a small mistake is harmless. In reality, it is a micro-evasive ...

The Cost of Soft Lies

 Why Self-Respect Demands Radical Honesty in Your Personal Life We have a bizarre double standard in our society. If a business executive spent their days doodling, mismanaging resources, complaining about the market without pivoting, and letting stakeholders run over their boundaries, they would be fired by Friday. Yet, in our personal lives, we accept this exact level of chaos as standard operating procedure. Lately, my work has taken me deep into the lived experiences of everyday human dynamics. While traveling and operating on the Helpx volunteer platform, I have been invited inside the literal and emotional homes of various families and businesses. As a leadership coach, being on the true "inside" of these domestic ecosystems has given me an incredible, raw palette of human frustration to observe. It has been a masterclass in human behavioral patterns—and it has solidified a core truth for me: We are drowning in a lack of radical honesty, and it is killing our self-respe...

Life Lessons in a Helpx Kitchen

On Boundaries, Self-Sovereignty, and Treating Life Like a Real Job Boundaries are rarely challenged with a roar; they are usually tested with a subtle nudge. One morning at breakfast, the husband at my Helpx address commented on the small sounds I make while working in presence. The wife joined in, suggesting that people are often unaware of their habits when alone. It was a familiar dynamic—subtle, almost casual, yet carrying the undertone of projection. An attempt to pull an outsider into their internal dissatisfaction. Instead of defending myself, over-explaining, or apologizing, I paused. I looked at them and asked calmly: “Is it a problem?” He softened immediately, backpedaling into a vague explanation that it just seemed like I was “absorbing something.” Before the conversation could spiral into unnecessary psychological analysis, I closed it cleanly: “Let’s talk about this another time. I’d like to enjoy my breakfast.” When he tried to deflect with a cliché about women multitask...

Beyond fatigue | Where Does Energy Come From? | Recharging Ourselves

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I realized something simple, yet profound, while volunteering in Switzerland.  In a conversation with my host Heloise, something clicked into place.  Our Soul energy is not recharged by food. It is recharged through connection with the Source. Food nourishes the body. But it does not restore the deeper layer of energy we are often searching for. The Body and the Soul: Two Different Sources The body needs building blocks: nutrients minerals and salts carbohydrates and proteins This is functional nourishment. It keeps the system running. But the  soul —or the deeper essence of who we are—draws energy from somewhere else entirely. It draws from: connection presence the Source, the Divine Light.  When that connection is present, there is a natural sense of aliveness, clarity, and flow. When it is absent, no amount of food, rest, or external input fully restores us. Practices That Regulate Energy There are practices that help us reconnect and regulate this flow: Meditatio...